The dramatic moment where the minister says “if anyone can show just cause why this couple cannot lawfully be joined together in matrimony, let them speak now or forever hold their peace”
Anytime I hear those lines at a wedding, I imagine a long-lost lover bursting in and setting things straight (blame Hollywood). The dramatic tension those words create for the few seconds of silence is mind blowing. I didn’t realise this until the Pastor uttered those words at my wedding.
I remember attending a wedding few years back, where someone actually got up. The groom’s side chick thought that day was a good day to announce to the whole church that she was carrying his baby. When she finished her speech there was silence. Absolute silence. She was dragged out of the venue & the groom totally denied it. After a lot of shocks and gasps and ‘I knew he was an asshole’ the ceremony continued but there was tension in the air & a lot of side eyes. The event was no longer filled with celebration & love; it was a free cinema affair with free food & drink to accompany the gossip.
Anyway, we heard that after the wedding she went back to her parents’ house. He indeed impregnated the side chick. We heard that was the last time they saw each other and they have both moved on.
Apparently the lines “if anyone can show just cause why this couple cannot lawfully be joined together in matrimony, let them speak now or forever hold their peace “has now become obsolete. The tradition has been phased out because no legitimate grounds remain for objecting to a wedding.