What you are as a single person, you will be as a married person, only to a greater degree. Any negative character trait will be intensified in a marriage relationship, because you will feel free to let your guard down – that person has committed himself to you and you no longer have to worry about scaring him off
How deep, accurate, thought provoking and true is this statement! I am no expert in marriage and love advice, but there is one thing that I know about choosing the person that you’re going to spend the rest of your life with — whoever he or she is when you get married, what you see is what you get.
Wedding vows does not mean the person is going to change, heck LOVE doesn’t mean a person will change. That’s why it’s always important to shine your eye well well before you decide to spend the rest of your life with someone. Too many people cause more harm than good by brushing issues under the carpet during the courting stage hoping it will disappear and their spouse will change. The courting stage is when you make your likes and dislikes known.
Whatever issues you both may have, must be hashed out before stepping into marriage. The ‘bad’ will only be magnified in marriage because your partner’s bad habits before marriage will only increase after marriage because there is a sense of security that comes with tying the knot.