The other day my husband’s friend and his wife came round for dinner. After dinner the men went out to have a few bottles and me & the wife stayed back to tidy up and do the dishes. Whilst I was washing up, she said I really needed to get a house help who would do all the domestic work for me.
I told her it wasn’t that big of a deal, our house isn’t massive and it’s just me & hubby, I could cope.
She later went on to tell me that her house wasn’t as big as mine but she has two maids in her house. I started to think hmm maybe I should tell hubby to get me one & relive me of some of the stress.
That evening, when hubby and I were alone I brought up the idea of having a house help. He looked at me confused and told me we didn’t need one. I told him what his friend’s wife had told me & he LAUGHED OUT LOUD! ‘Adenike can lie for Africa’ he said. ‘Which housemaid does she have, it’s her husband that does the cleaning in the whole house’
It’s easy to get caught in the comparison trap when you see so many amazing pictures of couples in love on social media our hearing things that happen in peoples marriage, but, comparing your marriage to someone else’s is a lost cause and will only leave you disappointed.
As couples, we need to make sure that we’re not hurting our marriage by judging ourselves against other couples who seem to have it all together.
We live in a world of comparison—especially with social media. We look at other people’s lives through an Instagram filter and think that someone else’s life is picture perfect… their house, their family, even their marriage.
The thing is, we don’t always see other’s struggles. If you were to take the façade of others and compare them to your reality you may just find that you are doing better off than them, So why put yourself through misery.
Comparison is detrimental no matter what the context. NEVER compare your marriage to anyone else’s. You NEVER KNOW what people are going through behind closed doors.